It is time to do some serious spring cleaning in Boomers’ basements, attics and garages filled to the brim with family mementos and “treasures”.
The days are finally getting longer and the snow piles have melted here in New Hampshire. Reminders of this past winter still linger. Snow removal equipment has been stored and mittens and boots are slowly being tucked away as the early signs of spring finally emerge in New England.
April 15 is here. You’ve probably heard this saying before - There are only two things that are certain in life - death and taxes. The difference between these two predictable events is that death only happens once.
We make up a variety of reasons for dragging our feet when it comes time to prepare and file our income taxes- even when we know that the dreaded deadline doesn’t change year after year.
What does planning for death and preparing taxes have in common?
It’s here. Some call it the “silver tsunami” while others reference it as “the greying of America”. Nearly half of the “sandwich“ generation have a parent over age 65 and are raising young children or supporting grown children.
Alarmingly, thousands of critically important end-of-life and after death decisions are currently being made without the benefit of advanced planning. While “hope” is not a plan, planning realizes hope.
A block of dedicated time is carved out each and every Sunday morning in my parents home. Sunday mornings are happily spent in anticipation of tackling the ultimate prize – the successful completion of yet another mind bending New York Times crossword puzzle.
NPR’s Diane Rehm’s personal story catapulted her to the forefront of the right-to-die debate when she shared her husband’s death with the public. Her husband John struggled with Parkinson’s disease and then struggled with his end-of-life choices. John wanted to die on his own terms but he lived in a state where there was no legal aid-in-dying option.
Corgenius and LastingMatters are companies founded after personal experiences with loss and grief inspired their founders to solve problems that most people tend to tip-toe around. With a deep understanding of, and compassion for, what really happens when someone dies, both companies tackle the challenges associated with planning and communicating before and after death.
In 1903, my great-grandfather, George D. B. Bonbright sold a stamp collection to help fund and open his investment firm in Rochester NY with six employees. George was a “life planner.” My grandfather was named a partner at Bonbright & Co. where he too was a meticulous planner. In 1958, my father began his 56 year career helping people plan. For over three decades, my husband Tom has served hundreds of families with planning their life’s transitions.
It's that time of year when we have carefully packed away the decorations, cleaned up our homes, and returned to our busy lives after celebrating various holidays with family and friends, near and far.
Once again, it is time to get ready for another New Year!
It's also that time of year when we reflect upon and assess the close of yet another year. We tie up loose ends and make plans for the coming months and the year ahead. We also count our blessings.
They recently arrived packaged lovingly in white tissue in a box with a note from his widow. They sit side by side on our mantle this holiday season next to two others that are perched there.
They sit as a stark and precious reminder of the man who once wore them.
They are Rohe’s red and green, furry, bright, holiday music- playing, ridiculous holiday hats.