A Different Kind of Mother's Day
If you are lucky enough to still have your mom around, be sure to share your love with her each and every day…not just on Mother’s Day.
What did you learn from your mom this past Mother’s Day?
Although she’s your mom, she is also a person with her own life experiences that have nothing to do with you. What pieces of her story do you know? And what don’t you know about your mother?
The Huffington Post recently put together 38 conversation-starting questions to ask your mom right now. Here’s a sample:
- What’s the most trouble you’ve gotten in?
- What was your relationship with your own parents like?
- What was it like being a working woman at that time? Or a stay-at-home mom?
- Who were and are your role models? And why?
- Is there a moment or event that radically changed the way you saw the world?
- What do I need to know about our family’s medical history that could affect my health?
- What advice would you give your younger self at age 20?30?40?
- What do you want your funeral to be like?
This last question is one that might seem difficult to ask, but the answer will be a gift to you and your family.
Twelve years ago, suddenly and reluctantly, I joined a new “club” - I became a “mom without a mother”. My mother died suddenly, a few days shy of Mother’s Day. I didn’t know that the year before would be the last time we celebrated our Mother’s Day together.
Without any forethought, Mother’s Day would never the same. There is no longer a need to mail a funny Hallmark card, order flowers to brighten mom’s day, or wrap up a small gift to recognize and commemorate the day.
You have the opportunity today, and maybe for months and years ahead, to have many meaningful conversations about what’s on her mind. Take advantage of having time to talk about what matters most, including conversations about what your mom’s end-of-life wishes and directives are. LastingMatters was created to help compile and organize information and will help you both be better prepared for when your mom is no longer able to speak for herself, no longer able to answer your questions, or not here tell you exactly what she actually wanted.
Don’t miss any opportunities to tell your mom just how much you appreciate her, even on those days when you don’t agree. She will continue to share wanted and unwanted advice. When your mom is gone, the chance for any conversations ends. You will, however, forever hear her in your heart and soul.
Seize the day, because inevitably the day will come when you won’t be able to get clear answers to the many unanswered questions you might have and the chance to say “tell me more”. Recording your mother’s voice is also a lasting and priceless gift!