TED talk- A Good Death
AARP picked up an amazing "TED talk" about planning for the end of life and immediately posted it on their website.
Watch it. It only takes six minutes, but promises to change your attitude about planning for the inevitable.
Judy MacDonald Johnston's story is not unique, but she takes the bold leap of having a public conversation about death and dying and what it takes to plan for a "good" death.
Judy has a website at www.goodendoflife.com you might find interesting too.
The four components clearly defined in Judy's talk about having a good (end of) life are:
1. Make a plan
2. Recruite advocates
3. Be hospital ready
4. Choose caregivers
This all seems so simple doesn't it?
It can be, but it also takes time and attention. Most importantly, you first need to make a plan. Making a plan does not mean that you have to immediately implement the plan, it just means making one.
Judy talks about the fact that at some point a life changing event will trigger the reality that "something is going to get me". She is right about that!
I would urge you to not wait until you are considering retirement to start the process of making a plan. In fact, one thing we do know is that we don't know when that "something is going to get me" will happen. Not "if", but "when".
Researchers say that making a plan will ease the burden on those left behind. The guesswork and the mountains of tasks to attend to that followed my mother's sudden death would have been so much easier to deal with and less stressful if Nonnie had made a plan. We began to have those sorts of conversations, but never knew her wishes when she died.
A plan will allow you the precious time to say goodbye, without wasting time with stressful, hastily made decisions, a tremendous amount of worry, and the potential for family disagreements. The best part of having a plan will be the peace of mind that comes from fulfilling all of your loved one's wishes. What a gift to those at the end of life, as well as a gift to those saying goodbye.
What is on your planning agenda?
Share some ideas with me...
What do you think is the most important piece of information that you can communicate to your family before the inevitable happens? A List of all your passwords? Your funeral wishes? A written draft of your obituary? The decision to be buried or cremated? Where your treasure chest is buried in the back yard??